Do this before you start your divorce

On behalf of Barli & Associates LLC posted in divorce on Friday, September 1, 2017.

When it’s time to get a divorce, you’ll know, and the decision probably won’t come easily. Most New Jersey spouses spend a lot of time deliberating before they are certain that divorce is their only option. During this deliberation phase preceding your divorce, here are few things to consider.

Consider marriage counseling: Marriage counseling can help you come to terms with your need to divorce, while giving your marriage one last opportunity. In some cases, couples can save their marriages with counseling, but in many cases, they find that parting ways is their best choice.

Consider getting a counselor for just yourself: A counselor is a great tool for working out the emotional aspects of your breakup. Your counselor is an excellent outlet for the things you’re dealing with, as you can talk to him or her in absolute confidence.

Think about how you’re going to break the news to your spouse: It could be that you’ve been considering divorce for a long time in secret, and you’ve never broached the topic to your spouse. The way you inform your spouse is important as it could affect how well the two of you navigate your divorce proceedings. As such, you might want to ask an experienced divorce lawyer for advice on how to break the news.

Try out a temporary separation: You might want to tell your spouse you’d like to try living apart for a few months, and reevaluate how you feel once this period is complete. This trial period can give both you and your spouse the feeling of what it will be like following the permanence of your divorce.

There are other things you might want to do before engaging on your divorce. An experienced family therapist and a New Jersey divorce lawyer can be great resources during the preparatory time while you’re still considering if you want to pursue the dissolution of your marriage.